Me and fiance agreed we would not invite any coworkers to our wedding. That way we could avoid any hurt feelings that might come up among those who would inevitably learn they are not invited. Our wedding is so small anyway, that everyone attending is either a friend of 15 years, or a part of fiance’s large family (I’m not exaggerating: he has 8 sets of aunts and uncles…add the cousins) its hard to even fit people into the room.
Fiance just started his job a few months ago so doesn’t know his coworkers well enough yet to feel comfortable inviting them to our wedding. I’ve been at my current job for almost a year. I don’t go out with my coworkers too often after work, but I’d like that to change. Its because I spend most of the time doing weding stuff that I haven’t been able to ask people to have some fun, but no one has asked me either I guess.
I had a lot of fun with a bunch of coworkers at the baby shower for another coworker this weekend. I’d like to invite them and fiance says he doesn’t mind, but we can’t afford to invite all their plus ones. Inviting seven people from work is one thing, but with all their dates, that’s 14 extra people! That would add about $1,600 to our catering bill that we can’t afford. But 7 people is more doable, and all those coworkers know each other anyway, so its not like they’d be alone. Besides, adding 14 extra people would change our wedding from the “small intimate” event we wanted to something much bigger.
Is it rude to not invite their significant others? One of the people I’d like to invite mentioned a few months ago that she was offended that her BF’s friend specifically said to him “your girlfriend is not invited to my wedding.” At the time, I agreed with her. But now that I’m in a money crunch, I understand why you’d want to do this. I’d be more tactful with my own coworkers, and give them an RSVP card with a “one seat has been reserved for you” note filled in.
The other thing, I really like two of my former bosses who are in other departments now so are no longer my supervisors. They might be my bosses again in the future. Would it be inappropriate to invite them? Does that mean I would also have to invite my current bosses in my new department because everyone knows each other? That might be weird. I don’t want to have to be on my best behaviour at my own wedding.
How did you guys handle the coworker and bosses situation for your own weddings?