I am really sick of criticism.
I write this blog so I can inform people about the perilous nature of wedding planning and how it will drive you insane, but it’s also a way to vent. Free therapy.
I try not to mention my wedding stuff to people offline, but when they ask me stuff, I can’t just ignore them. I have to answer. I tend to be unenthused. Especially when they ask me about bridesmaids.
But sometimes I’m happy about a decision and just want to share a wedding win with them. Something that I’m actually glad about that I managed to check off the list or whatever.
Our wedding favor (bomboniere in Italian) was one of these things.
I wanted something decorative but Fiance made the good point that everyone’s home decor is different. We were out of town for my friend’s wedding and saw this dish on sale. It’s lightweight and white so it goes with everything, and can work as either a candy dish or a mini-casserole or whatever. They were similar to other ones that pushy salesladies were throwing at us at a wedding price gouging store for $8 each and these were on sale for less. We bought them up and drove them home for an hour. Showed two people separately so they’re independent opinions. BOTH conversations went like this:
Unhappy Bride: “Look at this wedding favor! Isn’t it great? I’m so happy we can check it off the list.
Criticizers: “It looks like it costs $1. And $1 would be too much for that. You should have put more research into your decision.”
Thanks. I guess six months weren’t enough and now I feel great about giving these away and looking cheap. Why can’t you just lie to me about it and make me feel better?
Wedding planning is awesome. Each day I grow more and more towards pulling my hair out, stuffing my face to obesity, or running off to Niagara Falls to get married and just leaving this all behind. But as this stuff continues, I start identifying the bridezillas I’ve constantly poked fun at in this blog. How can you listen to constant criticism, and grapple with people only out to make your life harder, or price gouge you, with more examples here, here and here and NOT want to scream like a bridezilla?
EDIT: Thanks to the lovely tweeters @AandBEvents and @beccalowery who suggested adding a recipe and candy along with the ribbons! We plan Jordan Almonds, or wedding “Confetti” an Italian tradition that represents health, happiness, long life, fertility and prosperity.